I hate to focus on what’s wrong, but sometimes it does us good to see how, where, and why we go wrong in order to work toward breaking the cycle of our relational woes.
It starts with the question of who you listen to.
Our first parents responded to a false proposal as if it were true (Genesis 3:5-6, 11-13) and led to dead, disordered, enslaved desires (James 1:14-15, 4:2-3).
The disordered thoughts of our first parents brought to bear disorder in every area for all, that is, all except Jesus.
Jesus refuted three false proposals with truth (Luke 4:1-13). Only he can redeem our hearts from being dead, disordered, and enslaved to being alive, ordered, and free.
Jesus came to bring a sword to disorder in every area of life for those who listen to his voice.
How are our powers of discernment to distinguish good from evil developed?
They are not developed by eating of the tree of which the Lord God commanded them not to eat, but they are trained by constant practice (Hebrews 5:14). By abiding in Jesus’ Word we’ll know the truth and be set free by it (John 8:31-32).
“But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like.” ~ James 1:22-24
It’s not in question that we are disordered, but how.
The areas of life in which disorder is most prominent varies from person to person. The purpose is not to sit in judgment of, but to offer Jesus’ freedom to those who manifest their disorders in people-pleasing, annoying, addicting, or avoiding behaviors, and to those who are challenged by relationships that are anticipated, new, old, bruised, broken, or tenuously grateful.
This website points you to learn who will be present with you for the asking and the only one who can ultimately help you learn how to get free by getting on the path to truth step-by-step.